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Drugs, Sex, and Relationships

I recently joined an online dating site for the first time ever, and was surprised to come across one of the ?matchmaking questions.?? The question innocently asked, ?Do you think taking drugs with your partner can be a sensual experience??

Like most online dating (and SAT) questions, I was dissatisfied with my multiple-choice answer options.? What drug were we talking about?? Does alcohol count as a drug?? Are we talking heroin or marijuana or accidentally taking too much Nyquil during the seasonal flu?

Drugs and relationships are certainly not just modern day issue.? The drug use of ancient civilizations has been extensively documented, and often in sexual rituals.? I even stumbled upon a book in college that studied drug use in animals and how it relates to sexuality (not joking, apparently reindeer really love shrooms).?

There is a very interesting article that discusses the link between attitudes on sex and attitudes on drug policy.? Those more likely to support legalization of marijuana were also more likely to answer that sex without love was okay.? Therefore, a liberal attitude in terms of drugs is also correlated to a more liberal standpoint on sex and relationships.

Rather than enter the entire moral and ethical debate about drug use, I instead want to explore drugs as they effect relationships.? More specifically, my view on the subject is basically whatever your partner is into, you should be into to some degree, too, otherwise the thing isn?t gonna last.? You can?t have one person sitting at home getting high all day, while the other person works 60 hours a week in criminal litigation.?

?How was your day honey??

?Fine, just sat here for 8 hours getting high! How?s the big case??

That relationship is not going anywhere.

I have seen friends? relationships affected by this issue.? You don?t have to be an addict, either.? Recreational users of any substance have to deal with this issue in their dating life. ?Alcohol is an extremely common and divisive issue in a person?s relationships due to its legality and hyper-use in the youth dating scene. ?If one person is out drinking every weekend (and on Thirsty Thursdays), while the other has a cocktail only on holidays, alcohol could cause a rift that ultimately leads to a relationship?s demise.

I think it falls into line with research contradicting the Paula Abdul song with the cartoon MC Skat Kat, ?Opposites Attract.?? Opposites may attract, but your relationship will probably not last very long.? Therefore, regardless of if you are a ?Say No to Drugs? person, or dappling in everything, try to find a partner who has similar views or habits.

How do your opinions on drug use factor into your relationship?? Can you be involved with another person who has different opinions on drug use? Do you believe you can have more intimate, sensual experiences through drug or alcohol use?

Source: http://www.datingish.com/755169836/drugs-sex-and-relationships/

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